Stop Blaming Yourself

Why you’re not to blame if you are not reaching your goals.

There’s always a level of uncertainty when we are growing into something new.

It’s part of our biology that is meant to keep us safe. Because there was a time when speaking up and being different might mean rejection from the “tribe”.

And this rejection could mean the difference between having a circle of friends, family and protectors or living alone.

This awareness comes primarily from a small area at the top of the brainstem called the Reticular Activating System or RAS.

The RAS is a filter. There is way more information thrown at us in a day than we can sort through, so this filtering system makes sure only the important things get through.

So, you are more likely to hear your child cry or call your name than you are to hear something on the television.

And you’ll hear a siren over the radio playing, because it gives you a message, a warning.

Those warnings and signals of danger get through because it could be the thing that saves your life.

But it can also be the things that gets in the way of reaching your goal.

It can slow your progress when you want to move into something new because “new” and “danger” can go hand in hand (according to the RAS).

This thing that is a part of us, a natural part of life can also be the thing that works against us and keeps up from a level of achievement that we desire.

It is, in my opinion, the basis of our resistance to change.

So, what can you do?
How can you fight biology to move into a new level?

One of the easiest things you can do is to take very small steps.

There is no danger in small incremental change, but small consistent steps do lead to BIG changes, over time.

Also, be very clear on what you want. Remember that the Reticular Activating System is a filter.

It filters out the things that are not important.
When you are very clear on what your goal is, it activates the RAS and it works in your favor.

Have you ever decided to buy a car that’s a specific color or style and then you start seeing them everywhere?

That’s the way the RAC works.

Whatever is important to you, is what you see. Roofers see roofs. Hairstylists see hair.

And when you decide you are going to move in a new direction and set a clear intention, you’ll start seeing things that will get you there!

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